Seeking a sexual relationship

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I am married and have three children with my husband. For the most part, our lives are happy. However, I am utterly unsatisfied sexually. I need a bit more than occasional vanilla sex to feel content in that area nothing too crazy, mind you. When my husband and I first started dating some years ago, I gently brought this matter up to him a handful of times during the course of regular conversation.

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His answers to me seemed to imply that he was the type who took some time to warm up to new ideas. With this in mind, I moved forward with him, believing that eventually our sex life would become more adventurous. It has been seven years since we became a committed couple, and if anything, our sex has become more boring and certainly less frequent. But when this happens, he goes from being a calm, caring person to being enraged and verbally abusive in a matter of seconds thankfully it has not been in front of our children.

He has said some truly terrible things to me when this happens, things that he is always apologetic for later but that I have a difficult time getting over. Because of this, I have largely lost confidence in his having my best interests at heart. Because of this lack of trust, I am no longer in a place emotionally where I feel I can even bring up my lack of sexual satisfaction. I am at the point that when I think of attaining sexual satisfaction, the thought of attempting it with him is unpleasant to me. We have kept in touch just a little, and never in a sexual context since I began dating my husband.

I am no longer content to simply accept being less than satisfied in any area of my life, including sexually, and I know that this other man is able and willing to provide that for me. He and my husband do not know each other; he lives very far away from us, and I am in his area only once or twice a year. My husband appears to be both unwilling and unable to provide what I need sexually.

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However, our family functions well as a unit, and he is a good, involved father, and a generally decent husband, so the thought of breaking up our family is heartbreaking to me and seems very selfish. In addition, extramarital affairs are something I have never believed to be ethically sound decisions. As I see it, these are the options available to me:. I could leave my marriage, break up my family and pursue my own satisfaction, which feels like a blatant betrayal of my children and what I have ly thought to be my moral standards.

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I could get sexual satisfaction outside of my marriage with a person I trust and have confidence in, but then have to hide that fact from my husband for the remainder of our lives together, which also feels like a compromise of what I have traditionally viewed as morally acceptable. I could try to simply accept that I will not ever truly be satisfied in life sexually or even emotionally, I supposewhich feels like an utter betrayal of myself. I could try to persuade my husband to be accepting of my seeking sexual fulfillment outside our marriage, which I already know he will never be willing to do.

The suggestion might itself be enough to end our marriage. I could try to persuade him to seek counseling with me, which I know he will be resistant to, and try to repair the emotional damage that has been done to our relationship and hope that eventually this will lead to some sexual satisfaction as well. It is worth noting, however, that I am in a place where I do not have the desire to become emotionally close to him again or vulnerable though he claims to be working on his anger issues.

The thought of even trying to become emotionally open to him again is repulsive to me. But I do think that as a family we function very well together, and even for the most part in our day-to-day relationship. Which of these options is both ethical and likely to lead to my happiness, or is there some magical alternate option I have overlooked? I am nearing the end of my rope.

Name Withheld. We live in a world, I realize, that rates and ranks sexual gratification with Yelp-like avidity. Another is having an emotionally empty relationship that regularly degenerates into incivility or worse. That suggests a toxic marital dynamic, fueled by anger and resentment. Are your children entirely insulated from it? And are these home-front troubles really going to be improved, rather than compounded, if you have an extramarital affair to keep from your husband?

I also wonder what you really want from your former lover. Just a sexual adventure? Or a satisfying relationship, of which the sex would be only a part?

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And is this likely to make up for the fact that your relationship with your husband is deeply unsatisfying, again in ways that go far beyond sex? Suppose he knew what I know now. And so, by the way, will he. Our daughter is married to a wonderful provider who is a caring and compassionate father. In the past, he was an occasional smoker, but he had quit by the time they married several years ago.

He has health insurance for the family and life and disability insurance for himself. On a recent visit, I smelled the distinct odor of tobacco smoke on him when he exited his car. What do you think is the appropriate course of action? The questions about smoking on life insurance policies have to be truthfully answered when you apply. You are, of course, jeopardizing your health, which poses a more direct harm to your family. If it came out that your son-in-law deceived his insurance company, you might raise the issue with your daughter and express your concern.

The chances of being caught, if he really is only an occasional smoker, are not high. Magazine Is It O. As I see it, these are the options available to me: I could leave my marriage, break up my family and pursue my own satisfaction, which feels like a blatant betrayal of my children and what I have ly thought to be my moral standards.

Seeking a sexual relationship

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